A way of thinking
There is a certain way you have to think about online dating. It has to be done slowly (patiently) with tight (focused) searches and emails. Once we get beyond the jokes, you will see a successful path with women through online dating.
Doing it slowly and tightening it up will give you that “swagger”; that attractive confidence that women can’t deny. The type of confidence that allows you to pick and chose who you want to be with and who you chose to blow-off. This is that slow methodic confidence that “bad boys” have that women are so attracted to because you become the allusive “catch” that they just have to have. Once you master this new system you too will understand the method to becoming that “catch” the women just have to have.
Thinking with your dick is not a crime per se, but it is a crime best committed when you have solid targets in mind. Almost every piece of advice I have heard about online dating is full of the same old mind-numbing clichés, with bombastic ads shouting out, “You too can nail more women. Ask me how!” To that I say, “Promises, promises.”
Besides, if MORE is all you’re after, turn off your computer and stop spending money on Match.com, Yahoo! personals and eHarmony. While you’re at it, stop grooming and buying trendy clothing. Just say, “To hell with women all together!” There is always someone out there who is less fortunate–and perhaps more desperate–than you are. If you lower your standards far enough, you are sure to find someone who will have sex with you. But is that really what you want? A woman of any age, any walk of life, any level of education, any social standing, any income? Wouldn’t you rather have a woman with whom you have SOMETHING–even if it’s ANYTHING–in common? So we’re not here to show you how to lower your standards. Anyone can do that by just not showering or shaving for a few weeks. I am sure you get my point. It’s not about quantity, but quality. Follow the simple but effective rules in the next thirteen steps, and you will increase the quantity of quality women in your life.
You chose to read this article not simply because you’re willing to try anything to get laid. It’s because the number of online-dating females is staggering.
Take a look:
Fact: There are more than 238 million Internet users in the U.S.
Fact: There are more than 100 million single adults in the U.S.
Fact: 55% of all active users are women.
Fact: Women are more likely to find a potential lover online than through, with 72% admitting to having had an online romance.
Fact: Only13% of couples say they met at a nightclub, bar, café, or other social gathering.
But just because there are millions of women online, this focused process is still about quality, not quantity. This system focuses on quality and what qualifies her for you. Don’t be mistaken: The system is not going to teach you how to get fewer women….NO – NO – NO. It is about getting fewer undesired women and more desired women. It’s about getting exactly what you want, spending the least amount of time and money possible to do that.
Once you master the skills of getting quality, you will soon see your confidence build. Your self-confidence is worth more than a big dick or a big wallet. Once your confidence is pumped up, you can easily progress to quantity of quality.
As of today, there are more than 40 million online daters. Most likely, there will be even more tomorrow. It wasn’t that many years ago when it was a big secret if you used online dating. Now most online daters are very open about their usage and even compare stories and what sites they use. This is because the quality of users has increased and there are more success stories than horror stories.
As many beautiful women who are your type are using online dating as there are at any bar or club on any given night, They are out to meet great guys, have sex, and have fun, and you’re in control of choosing them! Yes, chicks want the same thing we do! But there is only one thing stopping most men-having no clue as to how it’s done.
I am a huge believer in creating successful systems to help manage every aspect of life. Online dating is so vast and crazy you definitely need a system to help navigate through this maze of women. Let’s look at a successful formula.
I spend my days selling in the financial industry. Sales forces and industries that survive do so for only one reason: They have a system that works. Do you think sales reps join a company and just “wing it”? No. In fact, hell no! Sales reps make a living and companies make millions based on a combination of two things: systems + confidence. They take someone who has confidence and teach him the system. Remember that formula because you will definitely need to bring confidence to the game as I show you my system.
The “quantity of quality” will come to you when you develop the system. Part of that system is getting rejected. There is no full-proof plan that works 100 percent of the time, and even sales people know that every day that they go to bat, rejection awaits them, blocking the sale. There is nothing like getting rejected day after day for months, then closing one sale, only to start the whole cycle of rejection and success all over again. Talk about building tenacity and persistence! OK, so remember rejection will be on the menu and served cold at times, but if you don’t accept that as part of the deal, then you can go back to whining about being lonely and watching “Seinfeld” reruns.
At the end of every single strand of communication is a sale, and someone CAN be sold. Do you want to be sold, or do you want to sell? Dating, and especially online dating, is probably one of the rawest forms of a sale.
Think about a trial. If you were on trial for murder, even if you did it, you would want to be acquitted so you wouldn’t spend the rest of your life in jail. Wouldn’t you hire the best attorney you could? Wouldn’t you do anything possible to avoid the death penalty? O.J. Simpson did. You know why? Good sales people. It is the same in all aspects of life–a trial, a purchase, an investment, a date.
At the end of the day, you are either bought or sold. For instance, don’t be sold on the idea that you will never have a hot bimbo blonde playmate because you have been rejected by six in a row.
Look at this sales pitch. Your buddy calls and says, “Hey, bro, let’s stop by that strip club on our way home.” You don’t mind that place, but you would much rather go to a strip club down the street because last time you were there, the hot blonde with the fake tits rubbed you real good. So, do you tell you’re buddy “Sure, let’s go there”? Or are you going to close the deal and get that good rub from the blonde by saying, “I know you like that place, dude, but last time I was at the other strip joint down the street, you won’t believe how incredible it was and what happened”? If you did your job right, you don’t even need to go into details. Your buddy will just follow, saying, “HELL YEAH!” See, my point?
Every single thing in life, no matter how small or grand, is a sell. You have to recognize your sales ability, focus on your assets, and work on what you lack. Once you hone those skills and understand how they work, you can attack online dating with them.
You have all the time you want to plan your sales process (SLOW). Once you have that part down, you figure out your target (TIGHT).
If you can focus on these two aspects of online dating, you will conquer exactly who to set in your sights. The TIGHT is as important as the SLOW because there are so many different types of women out there, and you know you have a certain taste, so let’s go directly for them-and only them. When it comes to online dating, it is the same as conventional dating: There are beautiful girls, ugly girls, old ones, fat ones, young ones, skinny ones, crazy ones, you name it. That is why it is so important to learn how to sell (SLOW) your desired target (TIGHT), so you don’t simply waste your time on what you don’t want.
Now that you know what the focused processed is about, let me tell you how I’m going to go about this education process. “Education” is used loosely for lack of a better word. The entire process of boy meets girl can get pretty explicit, as we all know, and that’s fine. I don’t mind talking about getting laid, having sex, where and how you did it. Even some of the graphic words to describe anatomy or sexual acts. But by no means is this a pornography manual. It is an educational tome–for MEN. I am assuming that if you are reading this, you are a man. We all know how men talk, and I’m going to give you some of that talk here. It’s our nature. This volume is for us to unite and be “politically incorrect” about the reality of women and online dating. Let’s be guys, have fun, express ourselves, learn from our downfalls, and most importantly, find what we truly want, be that a mate or a few playmates.
This system is laid out in exactly the same way that you will implement your own system, so follow it from intro to conclusion, step to step, without skipping anything. The first few steps will get your mind working in the right direction. Later, you will learn the nuts and bolts of creating your own successful system. Some steps are shorter than others, and some require more work. If you ever feel overwhelmed and need more time to absorb the theory, put your mental brakes on, reread, pause, drink a beer or whatever else you need to do, but SLOW down and get it right.
This system is only half of your new system for successful online dating. It teaches you the proper system and puts you in the right frame of mind. If you need more advice or direct help creating your own system, you can reach me at my email. I can help you continue learning everything you will learn here, along with new tools more examples, message boards, live forums, and personalized consultation to help you succeed.
To get started, remember the basics of the system you are about to learn: Be patient and have specific targets. If you can’t SLOW it down and TIGHTEN it up, then you can’t handle this book and you will be back in front of the computer by the end of the day, whacking off, wearing only your socks.
